Almost any time you start to enjoy some sexual activity, you’re probably going to wonder: Can I do this while I have sex? The same is of course true with butt plugs too.
It’s not just a kinky fantasy though. Using butt plugs during sex can actually make sex even better!
So let’s get back to basics, and show you the best ways to take your butt plugs into the bedroom!
Which Butt Plug?
Luckily, there isn’t a specific type of plug that you need to use during sex. You can use whichever one you want.
There are a couple of things to bear in mind though.
As always, any butt plugs you wear during sex should have a base that stops it getting completely sucked into your anus. All bases aren’t made equal though. Round, flared bases can cause a lot of chafing if you’re going to be moving around a lot.
Depending on your bedroom activities, you might find it much more comfortable to use a plug with a t-bar base. These nestle neatly between your butt cheeks, causing a lot less rubbing against your skin.
Size might also be a useful consideration for you, again depending on how active you are in the bedroom. If you move around a lot, or have particularly vigorous sex, then larger plugs may be more uncomfortable.
Preparation - Talk, Foreplay, And Taking It Steady...
Just like when you use butt plugs alone, when you decide to take them into the bedroom there are a couple of things you should do to prepare yourself.
Many people like to take a shower to start with. Make sure to give your butt a good clean to make sure no poop will get on your plug. The heat will also help to relax your muscles, which can make inserting the plug a lot easier.
Before you jump straight into using your plugs during sex, you should sit down and have a chat with your partner about what you plan to do. Laying this out beforehand can relax the two of you, as there will be no unexpected surprises.
You might also want to decide on a “safe word”. This should be a word you aren’t likely to say during sex, and as soon as anyone says it you stop straight away. Having this in place means that either of you can stop the session at any point, particularly if it starts to hurt.
Lastly, enjoying some of your favourite foreplay will help get you in the mood, and ready to insert your butt plugs!
Sex With Butt Plugs: Men
Men stand to gain a lot from bringing butt plugs into the bedroom.
If they choose to wear one, obviously they’ll be experiencing extra sexual stimulation. A lot of this comes from the many, many nerve endings in your sphincter and anal muscles.
This isn’t the entire story though, as men have a unique gland that women don’t. It’s called the prostate, and it plays an important role in a man’s orgasms. On top of this, it’s one of the most sensitive parts of a man’s anus.
Stimulating the prostate while having sex can make orgasms much more intense and powerful!
Wearing a butt plug can also make a man have much stronger and firmer erections, and much more powerful ejaculation.
Sex With Butt Plugs: Women
Benefits aren’t only found when men wear a butt plug during sex. It can also be intensely pleasurable when their female partners wear one too!
For women much of the physical stimulation comes simply from the nerve ending found within the anus. Many women find this more than enough to reach orgasm, and some actually prefer it!
It’s not all about the anus though, as wearing a butt plug can change the stimulation you feel within your vagina. It’s often believed that the deeper parts of the clitoris are stimulated through anal stimulation. Being able to simulate both the external and internal clitoral parts can massively intensify your orgasms!
Wearing a butt plug can also make your vagina feel much tighter, as it presses on the rear wall of the vagina. This can improve sex for both women and men, as a tighter feeling vagina often just makes sex feel better!
Oral Sex With Butt Plugs
If you’re not ready to take the plunge with full sex while plugged, you can warm yourself up by practising with oral sex. Any kind of oral sex you normally perform can still be done while wearing a plug, and will often feel much more intense as described above.
The real benefit from using butt plugs during oral sex is that you don’t need to move around as much. For beginner’s who aren’t used to wearing butt plugs, or people who struggle to hold them in while they move around, this is a godsend.
Simply sit back, let your partner pleasure you, and enjoy the intense pleasure that awaits!
Best Butt Plugs for Different Sex Positions
Once you’ve got past the initial stages and got used to the feelings involved, you’re probably going to want to experiment. So which positions are perfect to try while wearing a butt plug?
Doggy Style
A perennial favourite, doggy style is still a great choice while plugged. For the person receiving, every thrust will bump against the base of the plug, pushing it further into your body and making the entire experience much more enjoyable!
If you’re the one doing the humping, you’ll constantly need to hold the plug in place. Gravity will be working against you. Engaging your muscles in this way often leads to very intense erections and orgasms, as these are the same muscles involved in those processes.
For doggy style, we like to use glass butt plugs. As you’ll be entering from behind, a glass plug will let you see your partner’s butt being stretched by the plug. The extra weight of the plug will also make each thrust that much more intense!
Lazy Doggy Style
Just like regular doggy style, lazy doggy style involves being penetrated from behind. Rather than propping themselves up on all fours though, the person receiving lies down flat on their stomach. Their partner then straddles them, and enters from behind.
Lazy doggy style gives you the same thumping feeling everytime the plug is thrust deeper into your body, but takes away some of the pressure of holding in your plug.
When trying lazy doggy style a set of anal beads is a perfect match. Gently pulling them out and pushing them back in while you thrust in and out can add a whole world of extra stimulation while keeping everything nice and laid back.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl is a favourite for many couples, not only letting the woman take control over the rhythm and pace of the encounter, but also giving you many different angles for stimulation. Similar to doggy style, the woman riding on top will feel the plug thumping into their body each time they thrust down onto their partners penis!
Our butt plug of choice for cowgirl is a vibrating one. As you ride up and down on your partner, he’ll be able to feel the vibrations coming into contact with his penis before disappearing again. He’ll be desperate to reach orgasm as the vibrations tease him over and over, while you get to enjoy it the entire time you ride him.
Reverse Cowgirl
If you’re a woman who likes to be in a bit more control over your sexual encounters, you might want to try out reverse cowgirl. Just like our previous positions, this one still gives the receiver the same thumping feeling as the butt plug base bumps against their partners pelvis. However this time, the woman is in control!
Often this can be a great position to try out if you both plan to wear a plug at the same time, as many men find them a little uncomfortable and strange. In this position, they can simply lie down and enjoy the sensations, while the woman does much of the movement and thrusting!
As you’ll be able to see your partner’s butt while they ride you, why not try a jeweled butt plug? You can appreciate the beauty and colorful nature of this kind of plug while you watch them bounce up and down on top of you!
Chair Sex
While you don’t often find sex positions that are specifically recommended for butt plug use, chair sex is one that we see mentioned a lot.
In most positions, the thrusting motion tends to push the woman’s butt plug deeper into their body. With chair sex, this is reversed. Every time the woman thrusts down onto the man’s penis, his plug gets pushed deeper into his butt.
Each thrust lets the plug brush and rub against his prostate, which can send him wild with pleasure!
Take it even further by giving him a prostate massager to wear while you ride him. Thanks to their curved design, each thrust is guaranteed to hit his prostate and give him an orgasm like no other!
Standing Sex
Another option if you’re looking for something a little more out of the ordinary is having sex while standing up. You’ll need some good upper body strength to hold your partner up in the air, or find a good wall to push her against.
Adding a butt plug to the equation can make things even more interesting, as you’ll be working against gravity to hold it in place. While having sex you’ll be constantly clenching your anal muscles to keep it in, making everything else you feel much more intense!
We recommend using a silicone butt plug for sex standing up. They are typically easier to hold inside your body, letting you concentrate more on having sex than keeping your plug in place.
Oral Sex
Just because you’re using a sex toy, that doesn’t mean you have to be doing full penetration! Butt plugs can also be great during oral sex too.
Our favourite option for a butt plug during oral sex is a tail plug. These have long, luxurious tails which you can manipulate with your free hands to stroke and tease your partner the entire time!
Plain Old Missionary
Of course, what round up of good sex positions would be complete without the classic. There’s a reason that this is one of the most prolific sex positions!
Unlike our other recommendations, in missionary the plugs won’t be affected by your movement. Instead they’ll simply sit and gently stimulate your anal nerves as you have sex.
While the feelings from this position might not be as intense as some others, it’s a great choice if you’re new to butt plugs, or don’t like the feeling of having something thrusting around in your butt.
To make things even hotter, why not try a little bondage? You can tie your partner up and have complete control over them. Once they’re unable to move, you’ll be free to choose whichever butt plug you want them to wear, and they won’t be able to do anything to stop you!
Other Ways To Enjoy Butt Plugs During Sex
Although positions are naturally the first thought most of us have when it comes to spicing up our sex lives, they aren’t the only option!
There are many other things you can do to change the way sex feels while wearing a butt plug...
Temperature Play
Temperature play is something you can explore in a lot of different ways in the bedroom. Some of the most popular are using candle wax, and ice cubes.
You can also explore temperature play with butt plugs! Either warming them up, or cooling them down can completely change the way it feels to wear them, leading to some unforgettable sexual encounters!
Warming Up Butt Plugs
To warm up one of your butt plugs, there’s a very simple method. Just place your plug in a bowl of warm or hot water for a few minutes.
You’ll notice we said “warm or hot”. You should never use boiling water when heating up your plug. Our bodies are very sensitive to temperature changes, and the anal muscles are some of the most sensitive in your body.
If you raise the temperature of a butt plug anywhere close to the temperature of boiling water, it’s almost certainly going to burn your insides!
Instead, you should gradually warm the plug, regularly picking it up and seeing how it feels. If it still feels cold, warm the water a little more and try again. While it might take a few sessions to find the ideal temperature you enjoy, it’s much better than burning yourself.
Sometimes you’ll see people say that you should microwave your plug to warm it up. This is something we always recommend against! Not only do microwaves reach high temperatures very quickly (making it more likely you will burn your anus), but they can also melt your plugs!
Before heating any butt plug, consult any instructions that came with them, and make sure they are suitable for heating. Some can’t withstand high temperatures, so even if you gradually heat them in warm water, they could still warp and melt.
Cooling Down Butt Plugs
Just like warming butt plugs up, cooling them down is a very simple process.
One simple way is to put some ice cubes in a bowl of water, and place your butt plug inside. Using water will stop the plug from getting too cold too fast, and you can always add more ice to bring the temperature down further if you want.
Bowls of melting ice can get a little messy though, so if you’re looking for something even easier then you can simply place your plug in the fridge! The bottom shelves are usually cooler, so choose those over higher up ones. Just be sure that your housemates know what you’re doing, or hide your plug inside something else to make sure no-one gets any nasty surprises!
Having mentioned the fridge, you might wonder if putting a plug in your freezer is a good idea. Generally we advise against this, as freezers reach much lower temperatures than refrigerators.
You would need to constantly be opening and closing your freezer to see what temperature the plug is at, and if it gets too low it could even cause freezer burns when you insert it!
Again, we advise that you make sure your plug is suitable to be cooled, and that doing so isn’t going to cause any damage.
Try A Blindfold
If temperature play doesn’t sound like your kind of thing, you could try blindfolds. The mystery of not being able to see what’s going on can be incredibly hot, and butt plugs are the perfect toy to amplify this.
Choose a vibrating butt plug, insert it, then hand the controls to your partner. You won’t be able to see what they’re doing, so every time they turn it on you’ll be surprised by the pleasurable sensation!
Roleplay - Petplay, Animal Roleplay, and BDSM
The final way you can incorporate butt plugs into the bedroom is through roleplay.
Roleplay can take a number of different forms, from submissive/dominant relationships, to full BDSM scenes, to animal roleplay and petplay. Luckily butt plugs are ideal for all of these.
In both sub/dom and BDSM relationships, it’s not uncommon for the dominant partner to “make” their submissive wear a butt plug. Often this is a sign of ownership between the two partners, so even when apart the submissive is reminded of their partner by their plug.
Some like to take this further, using the butt plug as an insurance policy. While apart from each other, the submissive must remain plugged at all times. This stops them from enjoying any sexual activity with another partner.
You could even incorporate electroshock and vibrating butt plugs to begin exploring some of the pain dynamics commonly found in BDSM relationships!
Petplay and animal roleplay are where butt plugs really start to shine though. Tail butt plugs are made to copy all kinds of animals, such as foxes, wolves, cats, dogs and even horses! Wearing a plug, ears, and even a collar can really start to get you into the mindset of the animal you choose.
They also change the way you look, which can help to turn many people on much more than normal! After all, many of us have fantasised about anthropomorphised animals seen in tv shows or cartoons!
Don’t Forget Your Imagination!
While these are some of the most common ways to incorporate butt plugs into your sex life, we haven’t covered everything. We’ve barely scratched the surface!
Just like any kind of sex, it’s important to explore and find out what you enjoy. Don’t be afraid to experiment! You never know, you might find a position that gives you the best sex you’ve ever had!