Anal Training: How to Stretch Your Anus for Sex

 

Now, this is a bit of a strange one. Stick with me though. None of us talk about sex enough, and half of the point of me writing these is to make it a little less strange.

 

You mean like doing weights with my butt?

Not exactly. But the same kind of principle applies. If you're going to making use of muscles that you haven't used often before, a little bit of training is in order. Basically, the point of anal training is to get your anal muscles used to the fun activities you have planned for them. This doesn't necessarily mean preparing your anus to take the biggest dildo you've ever seen. If you plan to engage in basically any level of anal sexual activity, some level of training will definitely help. Butt plugs are one of the best tools you can use for this. By starting with a smaller plug and moving onto larger ones, you can properly stretch your muscles over time, and prepare yourself for bigger and better things. We have a range of kits with multiple different sized and shaped plugs, so you can truly tailor your anus to the kinds of experiences you wish to have.

 

Getting started: It's all about you.

There's no real cookie cutter guide for how to go about anal training, or how much you need. The main objective is just to make sure that you're having fun and pleasure while engaging in sexual activity. After all, there's no point in using and buying toys to enhance your sexual experience if all they do is cause pain and discomfort. So, make some decisions ahead of time as to what you actually want to be able to do with your butt, set some goals, and gradually work your way up to them. If you aren't sure how far you want to go, or are just doing this out of curiosity more than anything, anal training can still be helpful. Just start as small as you're comfortable with and stop when you feel satisfied with your progress.

 

What do I need to start anal training?

Well, you don't NEED anything except lube. For some people, it's perfectly comfortable to start with a couple of fingers and then move straight onto a penis, plug or dildo. For the less lucky among us, some small, straight-edged, tapered butt plugs are a great place to start. Nothing too girthy either. You're aiming to stretch your muscles, not tear them open!

 

More Lube?

The answer to this is always yes. More lube is good. If you've been working your way through all these articles, I could probably just write the word lube 50 times and call this paragraph done. Your anal passage has no way to lubricate itself. Putting things up there dry can be extremely painful. It can cause tears (both kinds) and bleeding. Lube is incredibly important. And the right kind of lube. Depending on the materials your toys are made of, you might need a specific kind of lube. Head over to our guide to lubrication and make sure you've got the right kind.

Now apply the lube generously. You want it all over everything you're planning to use in your anal experience. On your anus. In your anus. On your fingers. On your penis. On your toys. Hell, cover your sheets and wallpaper in the stuff. If you think you have enough, you probably don't. Pretend your butt is a turkey and keep basting it up. If you really need more advice on this, then head to our page on how to insert butt plugs where I cover applying lube in a little more detail.

 

Don’t overdo your training!

The main thing you need to do while anal training, or indeed anal sex, is to stay calm and relaxed. Some people like to regulate their breathing, much like meditation. Some people like to take warm baths before they start. Light candles. Get a massage. Whatever you need to do, do it. Being calm relaxes your sphincter muscles, which makes stretching them so much easier.

If you feel ready to get started, then let’s go for it. A lot of people like to start with just one finger, your pinkie finger if you're a complete amateur. Gently slide it in and once it's in, massage the inside of your anal passage with a small, slow, circular motion. You're aiming to gradually open everything up. Don't worry if you can't get the entire finger in at first, just go as far as you feel comfortable with going. If you encounter resistance while inserting any fingers then stop, pull it back out, relube, and adjust your angle. Sometimes it takes a few attempts to find the right angle to get things in properly. You usually want to be kind of aiming for your belly button, but from the other side. If though you're still having trouble getting anything in, DO NOT PUSH. You can cause serious damage to all kinds of important parts of your body if you do. Unfortunately, sometimes your butt will just not cooperate, and you'll have to leave it for another day.

If you've managed one finger without any problems, feel free to move on to two, or even three. The same rules apply, lots of lube, slow and steady, and stop if any pain occurs.

When you're comfortable with how many fingers you can take, and you're feeling ready (or brave) you can move onto your smallest plug. Once more, take it slow and steady, start with just the tip and only push it in as far as you're comfortable with. If you feel any discomfort, stop and rest for a minute or two then continue when you're ready. Then you can gradually move on to the next size of plug, and the next, and the next...

If you're having any trouble actually inserting your plug, feel free to check out our guide on inserting butt plugs for a more detailed explanation of what exactly you're doing.

 

How long do I need to do this for?

Again, that's a highly personal thing. Some people can handle hours of anal training. Some can only handle short sporadic doses. Just be sure to listen to your body and it'll tell you when it's had enough. Either way, make sure to give yourself adequate rest time between sessions, just like you would with any other kind of muscle exercise. Around 3 hours of rest should be plenty if you feel like having multiple sessions per day. Also remember that if you have a long gap without any anal activity, sexual or otherwise, remember not to jump straight back in at the level you were at before. You'll need to drop down a couple of stages and gradually work back up, as most of your sphincter and anal muscles will gradually tighten back up over time unless you use them regularly.

 

Be careful!

As with any anal activity, if there is any bleeding or incessant pain, stop immediately. Clean up the area, and if the bleeding persists, see a doctor as soon as you can.

Just make sure you take it slow, steady and in stages. Use plenty of lube and try to stay as relaxed as you can and you'll be an anal pro in no time!